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Joe Rogan Is Spreading Transphobic Hate Speech and It’s Putting Lives in Danger – Men’s Health

Joe Rogan is one of the biggest figures in podcasting. His show, The Joe Rogan Experience, consists of lengthy, often rambling interviews with a diverse array of athletes, academics, actors, entrepreneurs, and more. But you could also say that Rogan has really built his audience through selecting guests who bring their own notoriety to his show, or whose specialist subject is the kind of hot-button issue that will inevitably gain him some streams.

These interviews can take many forms, like getting infamous tech boss Elon Musk to smoke weed on camera, instantly immortalizing the moment in meme form. Or, more esoterically, speaking with pilots who claim to have had close encounters with UFOs. A lot of the time it’s harmless (if slightly deranged) fun. And then there are the episodes which, by virtue of Rogan’s massive online reach, lend a veneer of credibility to some truly dangerous prejudices.

Take the recent episode with guest Abigail Shrier. During Shrier’s conversation with Rogan, in which she promoted her book, Irreversible Damage: The Transgender Craze Seducing Our Daughters, Shrier invalidated the lived experience of trans and nonbinary kids and teens, and made numerous dangerous, entirely unsound false equivalencies. She compared transitioning among teenagers to historic adolescent phenomena such as eating disorders, self-harm, and (bafflingly) the occult, calling this age group “the same population that gets involved in cutting, demonic possession, witchcraft, anorexia, bulimia.”

She even described wanting to transition as a “contagion” with the potential to infect other children with the same ideas, drawing yet more scientifically baseless parallels with eating disorders. “Anorexics, they are always really careful when they put them together,” she said. “They have to be on hospital wards because we know that it will cause it to spread.”

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Plenty of savvy producers book guests like this to stir up controversy and accumulate outrage-clicks from their viewers. But was Rogan sitting back as a host and letting Shrier dig her own grave? Nope. He appeared to reaffirm this notion that being trans is something a child can be persuaded into through peer pressure, referring to time spent with “wacky friends” at school. He also mocked Caitlyn Jenner, and described LGBTQ+ activists as people who aren’t “looking at all sides of it.”

“They have this agenda,” he said, “and this agenda is very ideologically driven that anyone who even thinks they might be trans should be trans, are trans, and the more trans people the better. The more kids that transition the better.”

For all their talk of self-harm and other issues that teenagers can experience, neither Rogan nor Shrier openly acknowledged that more than half of transgender and nonbinary youth seriously considered attempting suicide last year. And that wasn’t due to “wacky friends” somehow transmitting gender dysphoria; it was due to the prolific, ubiquitous messaging in media that tells them there is something wrong with them, and how they feel doesn’t matter.

By alluding to a pro-trans lobby with that aforementioned agenda, Rogan positioned himself and Shrier as marginalized voices in their own right—a technique commonly employed by high-profile pundits who believe “cancel culture” is somehow coming for their right to free speech. But Rogan has 283 million active users across his social channels. Similarly, Harry Potter author J.K. Rowling tweets her transphobic half-thoughts out to 14.3 million followers—many of whom are the very kids she is attacking. They have huge platforms, and they are using them to actively, willfully spread misinformation and propaganda that will cause very real harm.

“As long as these tactics keep making him money … he doesn’t care who he hurts along the way.”

Of course, you could always make the argument that Rogan doesn’t actually believe any of the views that he encourages his guests to espouse on his show. Maybe he is just a cultural weathervane, conducting interviews on whatever outrageous topic is making headlines at the time. In one episode, he might endorse Democratic presidential candidate Bernie Sanders, or provide a safe space for openly gay strongman Rob Kearney to share his story. But in others, he is guilty of humoring (if not downright enabling) homophobic jokes and alt-right conspiracy theories from his guests.

Which is worse? To expose such bigotry to your millions of subscribers because you genuinely endorse it? Or to have so little conviction that you will knowingly platform hate speech about some of the most vulnerable, persecuted young people in our society to benefit your own career? You be the judge. Both are appalling in their own way.

Rogan likes to put on a furrowed brow and even, pensive voice; the hallmarks of a reasonable man with an inquisitive mind. Someone who is “just asking questions” or “wants to start a debate.” In reality, he’s an intellectual shock jock who amplifies the voices of conspiracy theorists, white supremacists, homophobes, and transphobes in the name of interesting conversation. And it’s becoming increasingly clear that as long as these tactics keep making him money and acquiring him followers, he doesn’t care who he hurts along the way.

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Barbados: Gay couples eligible for Welcome Stamp remote work visa – PinkNews

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Bridgetown, Barbados could soon be filled with remote workers. (Getty)

Barbados’ prime minister has said same-sex couples are welcome on the island as it works to free itself from its colonial-era stance on LGBT+ rights.

Barbados, one of the smallest but most-visited Caribbean islands, recently announced it would allow foreigners to live and work remotely on its shores for 12 months in an attempt to kickstart its tourism economy, hampered by the pandemic and a lack of rapid testing throughout the nation.

Though the announcement made for enthusiastic headlines around the world, there was less excitement among the queer community, owing to Barbados’ archaic laws on homosexuality and a note on the application.

The online form for the Welcome Stamp visa defined a spouse to be a mixed-sex partner, appearing to exclude same-sex couples.

With the situation unclear, prime minister Mia Mottley sought to make clear that Barbados “welcomes all”.

“There is an issue as to who Barbados will welcome and who it will not welcome,” she said in parliament.

“I want to say as long as I am prime minister of this nation we welcome all, every one.

Currently, same-sex male relations are punishable by up to 16 years in prison in Barbados, a law stretching back to its colonial occupation. According to Equaldex the ban is not enforced, and new legislation to end this discrimination is pending, though some homophobic attitudes remain. There is currently no legal recognition for trans people.

Mottley alluded to the island’s anti-LGBT+ laws, adding: “This country, that has been forged regrettably in the bowels of discrimination, cannot want to discriminate against anybody for any reason. All must breathe in this country.”

She confirmed that a bill is to be debated imminently with a view to outlawing discrimination on the age of race, age, colour, gender and sexual orientation.

“The people that want to put us in a box, that will allow people to be discriminated against for any reason, that is not who we are,” she said. “We are not that person.”

Barbados ‘Welcome Stamp’ remote work visa will recognise unions ‘other than a marriage’.

When Barbados’ Welcome Stamp application went live, many noted that same-sex married couples would, if they wanted to take advantage of the Barbadian scheme, need to apply as two singletons at an additional cost. That stipulation has since been removed.

Mottley argued out that Barbados already “recognises unions other than a marriage”.

“More than 70 per cent of the people born in this country come from unions other than a marriage,” she said, pointing to a change in law stopping those born out of wedlock from being precluded from inheriting their parents’ estate.

Gay Barbadian political scientist Peter Wickham – who currently lives in France – praised Mottley’s address, saying that the issue could have had a “negative impact” among queer and straight would-be tourists.

“The majority of people who are going to take up the stamp are not going to be homosexual, but a lot of people in Europe especially are conscious of progressive environments,” he told Barbados Today.

He added: “This is a process and I am expecting that ultimately we will end up in a completely different place than we are now as a country.”

Conversion therapy: What is it and why is it still legal in Britain? – The Independent

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New Zealand Prime Minister Jacinda Ardern has vowed to ban conversion therapy if her party returns to power, as is widely expected to happen in the country’s upcoming election on 17 October. “It is a practice that causes harm and is out of place in the kind, inclusive and modern country we are,” said party leader Tāmati Coffey.

This adds New Zealand to the growing list of countries looking to outlaw conversion therapy, including Canada, Chile, Mexico and Germany (Brazil, Ecuador and Malta already have bans in place). But in Britain it is still happening, despite the government pledging to ban it.

The term “conversion therapy” covers a range of practices that falsely claim to change a person’s sexual orientation, gender identity or expression.

Despite all major UK therapy professional bodies and the NHS rejecting it and stating that it is dangerous, some practitioners continue to conduct conversion therapy.

In 2018, the government pledged to ban conversion therapy but this has not yet happened. 

On 20 July, Boris Johnson described gay conversion therapy as “absolutely abhorrent” and said it “has no place in a civilised society, has no place in this country”.

“What we are going to do is a study right now on, you know, where is this actually happening, how prevalent is it, and we will then bring forward plans to ban it,” he said.

In response to his comments, the Ban Conversion Therapy campaign said: ”We’re delighted that Boris Johnson has listened to our calls for a ban on conversion therapy.

But, what exactly is conversion therapy and why is it still legal in 2020? Here is everything you need to know.

What is conversion therapy?

According to Stonewall, a charity that campaigns for the equality of lesbian, gay, bi and trans people, conversion therapy (otherwise known as “cure” therapy or “reparative” therapy) refers to any form of treatment or psychotherapy which aims to change a person’s sexual orientation or to suppress a person’s gender identity.

The practice is based on an assumption that being lesbian, gay, bi or trans is a mental illness that can be “cured”.

The Trevor Project, a charity focused on suicide prevention efforts among LGBTQ+ people, adds that conversion therapists use “a variety of shaming, emotionally traumatic or physically painful stimuli to make their victims associate those stimuli with their LGBTQ identities”.

How often does it happen?

A national survey of 108,000 members of the LGBTQ+ community suggested that two per cent have undergone the practice, with another five per cent having been offered it.

Research conducted by Stonewall also found that one in 10 health and social care staff have witnessed colleagues express the belief that sexual orientation can be “cured”, which rises to one in five among health and care staff in London.

Similarly, a 2009 survey of over 1,300 accredited mental health professionals found that more than 200 had offered some form of conversion therapy, with 35 per cent of patients referred to them for treatment by GPs and 40 per cent treated inside an NHS practice.

Is conversion therapy harmful?

The American Psychiatric Association has clarified that “the potential risks of reparative therapy are great, including depression, anxiety and self-destructive behaviour, since therapist alignment with societal prejudices against homosexuality may reinforce self-hatred already experienced by the patient.”

The Pan American Health Organisation, a regional office of the World Health Organisation, concluded that conversion therapy, “lack[s] medical justification and represent[s] a serious threat to the health and well-being of affected people.”

The Trevor Project agrees, adding that conversion therapy “amplifies the shame and stigma so many LGBTQ+ young people already experience”.

In a study by San Francisco State University, lesbian, gay and bisexual youth who were rejected by their families and caregivers due to their identities were nearly six times more likely to report high levels of depression and more than eight times more likely to have attempted suicide when compared to youth from accepting and affirming families and caregivers.

Why is it still legal in the UK?

In 2018, it was announced that controversial “gay conversion therapies” were to be banned in England as part of a government plan to improve the lives of gay and transgender people. Ministers said the practice “must be stamped out” – with legislation if necessary – and described so-called “gay cures” as “abuse of the worst kind“.

However, two years later, it remains a legal practice.

A July 2019 progress report, which was published a year later, said a formal consultation was on the way, but none has yet materialised.

In May 2020, equalities minister Kemi Badenoch suggested that conversion therapy was “a very complex issue.”

“There are a wide range of practices which may fall within its scope and we want to ensure we have a thorough understanding of the situation in the UK to inform an effective approach.

”Before any decision is made on proposals for ending conversion therapy we must understand the problem, the range of options available and the impact they would have.”

Ms Badenoch continued: “We will work to deepen our understanding and consider all options for ending the practice of conversion therapy.”

In June 2020, more than 100,000 people signed an online petition calling for conversion therapy to be made illegal, while Stonewall asked the government to “urgently” publish its plans to “end these harmful practices”.

Conversion therapy is a devolved issue, meaning that Northern Ireland and Scotland will make up their own minds on a ban.

Has conversion therapy been banned in other countries?

The United States, Canada, Chile, Mexico and Germany are among countries seeking to outlaw the treatment.

Worldwide, only Brazil, Ecuador and Malta currently have national bans on conversion therapy.

Netflix reportedly cancels Turkish show rather than write-out gay character – Engadget

Netflix has opted to stop filming a series set in Turkey, a day before shooting was to begin, over a row that it featured a gay character. The Financial Times, quoting Turkish website Altyazi Fasikül, says that officials refused a filming permit for If Only after learning about the depiction. This has sparked a political row, with critics of the Erdoğan government saying that it is an abuse of power.

An Amnesty International report says that Turkey is homophobic as a matter of public policy, treating LGBT people as diseased. Gay, Lesbian, Bisexual and Trans people in the country face discrimination, violence, and harassment on a regular basis, which it says is encouraged by politicians. The FT’s sources say that Netflix, when faced with the censorship, opted not to write-out the character, and instead axed the show. 

This is not the first time Netflix and Turkey have battled over the content of shows, with the country up in arms about an episode of Designated Survivor depicting a Turkish conflict. Netflix said in a statement to the FT that it remained committed to producing Turkish-language content, with several more shows currently in production. We have contacted Netflix for comment and will update this if it has anything additional to add. 

Incidents like this are relatively rare but Netflix has found itself in several rows around censorship in various countries. Most notoriously, an episode of Patriot Act with Hasan Minhaj that was critical of Saudi Arabia was pulled in the country after the government issued a takedown request. Netflix did, however, put the episode on YouTube for free in the country, should anyone wish to watch it. The company has also had to deal with takedowns in Singapore and Germany, as well as Brazil and New Zealand. 

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Trump Administration: If Confederate flag goes, so does gay Pride flag – Movie TV Tech Geeks

During the 2016 campaign, Donald Trump couldn’t say how much he loved the LGBT community, but soon after becoming president it wasn’t long before he was trying to take their rights away. Now, after losing his revered Confederate flag on military bases, he is making sure the gay Pride flag has to go with it. For those remembering Trump’s memorable line to minority groups, “What have you got to lose?”

Now you know.

U.S. Defense Secretary Mark Esper signed an order that will prohibit military bases from flying flags other than the U.S. flag, state flags, and military-related flags. 

Under the new guideline, LGBTQ+ groups affiliated with the military will not be allowed to display the rainbow flag at any time, even during Pride Month. Furthermore, LGBTQ+ service members are no longer permitted to display the flag in their workspaces.

The guidance issued Friday by the Defense Department appears to get around Trump’s hostility toward removing symbols of the Confederacy — which he has called part of U.S. “heritage” despite its connections to slavery, racism and secession — by restricting the kinds of flags on military installations.

A memo sent by Esper explains that the flag guidance applies to “work places, common access areas, and public areas,” which also include school houses, office buildings, naval vessels, break room and common areas in barracks, reports the Washington Blade. Individual rooms/dorms are not listed as places where the ban is in effect. 

The new guidance was initially put in place to remove symbols of the Confederacy, but Esper’s guidance took it several steps further to include the Pride flag, the Black Lives Matter flag, and other symbols that are not directly related to the American flag, flags of U.S. states, territories, and the District of Columbia, military flags, and those of allies. 

“The flags we fly must accord with the military imperatives of good order and discipline, treating all our people with dignity and respect, and rejecting divisive symbols,” Esper wrote in a memo.

The move goes directly against Donald Trump’s opposition to removing Confederate symbols and statues as well as renaming military bases named after racist leaders and officers known for supporting slavery.

Since the guideline was announced over the weekend, the Department of Defense has received criticism from various figures about the gravity of banning symbols of peace and love, like the Pride flag — including from Vice President Joe Biden, who is this year’s Democratic presidential nominee.

“Banning the Confederate flag from military installations was long overdue,” Biden stated on Twitter. “Banning the LGBTQ Pride flag — the very symbol of diversity and inclusion — is undeniably wrong. The Pentagon should ensure it is authorized, or as President, I will.”

“We were shocked to learn DOD’s new policy on the public display of flags bans the Rainbow Pride Flag from DOD workplaces,” Rudy Coots, president of Department of Defense Pride, the department’s LGBTQ+ resource group, told the Blade. “Banning the Rainbow Pride Flag will have the opposite effect of the policy’s intended purpose of improving morale, cohesion, and readiness. For LGBT soldiers, sailors, marines, airmen, and civilians protecting our nation each and every day, and their allies, the flag is a joyous symbol of hope, acceptance, and accomplishment that should continue to be displayed proudly.”

According to the Blade, each year since “don’t ask, don’t tell” was lifted in 2011, the Pentagon has hosted Pride events in June, though this year’s event was canceled due to the pandemic. 

Will Goodwin, a gay Army veteran and government affairs director for the anti-Trump group VoteVets, also condemned conflating the Confederate flag with the Pride flag.

“It is patently offensive that Mark Esper has, along with the Confederate flag, declared the Pride flag to be ‘divisive,’” Goodwin said. “The Pride flag celebrates the hard-fought rights of LGBTQ Americans, including many troops. To equate it with a symbol that represented a denial of human rights is disgusting and a slap in the face of those members of the community who serve, or seek to serve, in uniform.”

“It’s absolutely outrageous that Defense Secretary Mark Esper would ban the Pride flag — the very symbol of inclusion and diversity,” said Jennifer Dane, interim executive director for the Modern Military Association of America. “In what universe is it OK to turn an opportunity to ban a racist symbol like the Confederate flag into an opportunity to ban the symbol of diversity? This decision sends an alarming message to LGBTQ service members, their families and future recruits.”

Dane concluded, “If Secretary Esper refuses to reconsider, we call on members of Congress to take action.” 

Retail Watch: Get ‘energized, motivated and inspired’ at new Bethlehem gym, the first Lehigh Valley location of a worldwide chain – The Morning Call

Goldfish Swim School – Bethlehem co-owner Luana Negrao (center) poses with the facility’s general manager, Amanda Bowers (left), and assistant general manager, Ruth Gameiro (right), next to the school’s pool. The facility is set to open Tuesday, July 21, at 3055 LInden St. in Bethlehem. (Ryan Kneller/The Morning Call)

These places recently legalized gay marriage or partnerships – World Economic Forum

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  • Thailand’s cabinet has given draft approval for same-sex unions.
  • 28 UN member states have legalized same-sex marriage, while 32 recognize some form of gay civil partnership.
  • Northern Ireland, Ecuador and Austria have all recently changed their laws.

“A milestone for Thai society,” is how a government spokesperson described the cabinet’s approval of a bill giving same-sex partnerships a number of the same benefits as heterosexual marriages.

If green-lit by the Thai parliament, the country will join a growing list of nations that have legalized some form of same-sex union.

Here’s a round-up of the countries that have most recently changed their laws in this area.

1. Thailand (2020)

In July, the Thai cabinet approved the draft Civil Partnership Bill.

The bill – subject to parliamentary approval – does not allow same-sex unions to be classed as “marriages” but does enable the partnerships to be legally registered.

Gay couples will also gain rights including being able to adopt children and jointly own property, although they are not eligible for certain tax breaks.

Discrimination based on sexual orientation and gender identity not only violates universal basic human rights, it also adversely impacts the long-term economic prospects of individuals, businesses and countries.

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PGLE partners work together to:

  • Operationalize the five United Nations Standards of Conduct for Business Tackling Discrimination Against LGBTI People by providing a due-diligence framework, tools and resources for companies to advance and implement LGBTI inclusion globally (see here)
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2. Costa Rica (2020)

In May, Costa Rica became the first country in Central America to legalize gay marriage, and the sixth Latin American nation to do so.

In 2018, its highest court ruled that a ban was unconstitutional.

3. Northern Ireland (2019)

Same-sex marriage was legalized in Northern Ireland on October 2019 but it wasn’t until February 2020 that the first gay marriage took place.

The BBC explains that the change was partly technical, happening because Northern Ireland’s devolved parliament was in a prolonged state of suspension.

Northern Ireland was the last UK nation to legalize gay marriage after England, Wales and Scotland, which introduced the policy in 2014.

4. Ecuador (2019)

The fifth Latin American country to approve same-sex marriage – in June 2019, Ecuador’s move followed Argentina, Uruguay, Colombia and Brazil.

More limited ‘same sex unions’ had been recognized in Ecuador since 2015. However this decision gave gay couples in the Andean mountain nation full marriage rights.

5. Taiwan (2019)

Taiwan was the first economy in Asia to legalize same-sex marriage in May 2019.

Now some campaigners want these new marriage rights to go further, allowing spouses from countries where gay marriage is illegal to be allowed same-sex unions with partners from Taiwan.

6. Austria (2019)

Austria gave gay couples full marriage rights in January 2019, an extension from previous “registered partnership” arrangements. In doing so, Austria joined the vast majority of Western European countries.

Again, it was the country’s constitutional court that pushed forward the decision, voting for the change in 2017, on the basis that more limited civil partnerships were discriminatory. Austria’s governing parties decided not to challenge the move.

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It’s complicated: Exploring why gay men have such a unique relationship with the gym – Gay Times Magazine

For a lot of gay men, the gym is either a place of extreme anxiety or passionate obsession.

Joining the gym is something on a lot of people’s to-do lists, but as a beginner even after you’ve signed up it can still be difficult to go for that first workout. For queer people that journey can be even harder because there are extra layers of anxiety and fear around entering a space that is normally reserved for traditional masculinity.

I asked knitwear designer Daniel James how he felt about signing up to a gym, and he echoed my own initial reluctance. “I joined this year and have just been really scared to go,” he told us. “I get anxious over not knowing what a space is going to be like, how to find things, where to go, etc. So I keep putting off going even though i’ve had the membership for about 6 weeks.”

For most of us, our first experience of fitness was PE class at school, which for those who didn’t fit in with the rugby boys or the tennis girls, was hell. It starts with cruel jokes in the changing room about looking at the other lads (and why was it never the fit ones who thought we wanted them?) and invariably ended with humiliation at not being good enough at whatever sport was the torture of the week. I can recall too many times being mocked for standing on the edge of the pitch trying to stay out of the way, but then mocked harder for deciding to give it a go, and being shit at it. 

One gay man I spoke to about this (who prefers to remain anonymous, let’s call him Harry), recalled he started “shying away from trying [at PE] once overly-confident guys started dominating the class”. While that is definitely not an experience unique to queer people, it shouldn’t be forgotten that young queer people are often bullied for their queerness before they have even processed it themselves, so combine that with having to make themselves physically vulnerable on a cold field, and it quickly becomes a recipe for deep rooted anxiety.

The outcome, as freelance writer Jake Hall sees it, is that we can end up giving up on sport entirely. “I linked sports with masculinity, and masculinity made me feel vulnerable because I knew I didn’t really identify with it,” he explained. “As a result, I just disengaged with sport completely.”

These early experiences with sport and fitness tend to stay with us, and many queer people end up either rejecting fitness altogether or throwing themselves at it so hard that the journey to what they see as the perfect body never really ends – an issue perpetuated by Instagram and Grindr culture. “The media perpetuates this idea that we’re all toned, well-groomed and cosmopolitan, and then within gay communities there’s a real fetishisation of body types that match the ‘tribes’ – mainly twink, bear and jock,” Jake continued.

We’ve conditioned ourselves to accept these predefined roles, and as someone whose thinness was commented on frequently growing up, making the decision to join a gym was terrifying. I was often met with jokes even among my family if I mentioned wanting to start running or engage with fitness in any way. The feeling that ‘the gym is not for me’ haunted me for a long time. Not least because I grew up in a town in North Lincolnshire where opinions were narrow, and the guys at the gym were the same I had been made fun of by, years earlier at school.

Once you get over the fear of going to the gym, being inside it can be a massively intimidating place, and just like PE, it starts in the changing room. Everyone I spoke to had similar worries about this. Jake said: “I absolutely hated the changing rooms and the showers, they put me on edge immediately because again I felt like everyone was staring at my body,” which is the case whether you feel too big or too small to belong there.

“The locker-room – I guess this is a hang-up from school where my only experience of getting changed had been that of mass ridicule,” admitted Harry, while Daniel recalled: “The one time I went I was super nervous, I didn’t know where to go or what to do so I ended up standing around for a while, but once I started [the induction] I didn’t feel like I was being watched. My issue with not going at the moment is that fear of being watched or judged, though.”

It’s easy to forget that people go to the gym not because they already have the body they want, but because they’re there to work on something – yet it is still so natural to feel that we shouldn’t be there because we don’t fit in. You’ve probably heard people pass on a yoga class with ‘I can’t do yoga, I’m not flexible enough’, ironically forgetting that you do yoga to become flexible – the same is true with the gym.

This fear of being seen failing while trying in the gym isn’t without cause – we’ve all seen viral videos of someone using a machine in the most hilariously wrong way, but the anxiety of those super muscular guys watching us trying to bench press with bad form is more than enough to stop us from ever trying in the first place. For those fortunate enough to afford it, the easiest way to combat this is to hire a trainer for a few sessions to learn the basics, but I’ve found that following apps and finding a friend with some experience can be just as effective. Plus, as intimidating as it can be, the trainers in the gym are genuinely there to help (even if they may try and sell you sessions after – it is still ok to ask for a bit of advice).

“Given the rise in popularity of Instagram, influencers and celebrity culture, there has been a dramatic shift in the body ideals of men across the board; now both straight and gay men feel pressured to live up to this – I most definitely do,” added Harry.

“What we are experiencing, perhaps for the first time, is the pressure that women have had for centuries: that anyone could look like a model if perhaps they diet and exercise properly.”

In more rural areas like the town I grew up in, gyms are almost wholly heterosexual places, which makes it feel hostile to one of the few gays in the area (me). In the city it can be just as hard because of the opposite problem – the gym has plenty of gay men, but as ‘Harry’ put it, they have “already achieved their own gold standard of body image,” and the pressure for anyone who already feels like an outsider can be overwhelming.

This ties in with the bigger problem of how the LGBTQ community, and white gay men in particular, treat each other online, often reducing others to a few choice qualities and writing off anything else.

How can we come together to change all of this? The truth is there’s no easy answer, but if a friend quietly hints that they want to start a fitness journey, offer encouragement, not jokes – even a friendly jibe can bring back those early feelings of shame. Encourage and support people, and if you’re confident in the gym and see someone struggling, why not approach and ask if they’re looking for advice? We would all benefit from making the gym a more supportive place, where the people are seen as potential friends, not competition.

Remembering Naya Rivera’s Legacy For LGBT People Of Color – NPR

Actress Naya Rivera, known for playing Santana Lopez on the show Glee, died earlier this week. Many reflect on Rivera’s impact for representing LGBTQ+ people of color in her work.

STEVE INSKEEP, HOST:

Her fans are recalling the life and the work of Naya Rivera. She found stardom playing fiery and icy cheerleader Santana Lopez on “Glee.”

(SOUNDBITE OF TV SHOW, “GLEE”)

NAYA RIVERA: (As Santana) I mean, my carousel horse sweater should make me look like an institutionalized toddler, but no. I look hot and smart. I feel like Michelle Obama.

NOEL KING, HOST:

Rivera’s character was fiercely funny, kind of mean. And many “Glee” fans cheered when she came out as a lesbian.

WHEMBLEY SEWELL: To see Naya Rivera play Santana Lopez was an utter revolution in my own personal life.

INSKEEP: Whembley Sewell is the executive editor of the website Them.

SEWELL: And it makes me incredibly emotional. I can’t believe that I’m doing this. I still read fan fictions. I’m not even afraid to admit it. Like, it’s an enormous loss to me.

KING: On “Glee,” Santana experienced the excitement and fear of coming out. She fell in love with her best friend, Brittany.

SEWELL: When Santana Lopez was singing to Brittany “Songbird” – in the moment where she said, I wish you this love from myself, it all kind of clicked for me.

(SOUNDBITE OF TV SHOW, “SONGBIRD”)

RIVERA: (As Santana, singing) And I wish you all the love in the world. But most of all, I wish it from myself.

SEWELL: To have it in that context – I don’t know what all of this means. I have these huge feelings. But the fact that it’s OK that they’re coming from me, that’s what I could reflect on when I was piecing together who I was becoming.

INSKEEP: Sewell says Rivera’s legacy will live on for LGBTQ people of color.

SEWELL: What they are going to create and put out into the world because she gave us what she did is going to be so, so incredible. And we can’t even conceptualize right now what that’s going to look like.

(SOUNDBITE OF SONG, “RUMOUR HAS IT/SOMEONE LIKE YOU”)

RIVERA: (As Santana, singing) I heard…

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How the Thumb Ring Became So Gay – VICE Media

Nobody knows how old thumb rings are, but everyone is in agreement that they’re… really, really old. Older-than-Christ-old. Some of the oldest thumb rings were found buried in ancient tombs near Hancheng, along the Yellow River in China, and are dated to 800 BC. But they’re just the thumb rings which have survived. Thumb rings made of leather – which disintegrates – were likely made as far back as the Neolithic period, which was 12,000 years ago. So yeah, thumb rings = very old.

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Thumb rings haven’t always been a fashion item. In fact, for a long time, they were intended as protection attire for archers, so their thumb pads didn’t get worn down by the bow string. Their history, then, lies in practicality, in hands, in doing, but also in vibe . So it should come as no surprise that, in more recent years, the thumb ring has been widely adopted by lesbians and queer women. I’m actually wearing a thumb ring right now. So is Jaqueline Wilson, I imagine.

Much like the plain vest, the thumb ring has become a sort of ubiquitous queer symbol. As a piece of jewellery, it sits neither at the traditionally “feminine” nor “masculine” end of the spectrum. It is casual yet delicate. Vaguely practical, and faintly erotic. By wearing a thumb ring, you’re saying, “I like my hands to look pretty, yes, but I also know how to use them.” Someone who wears a thumb ring can probably fix a lawnmower or construct a bed, but they’ll also read poetry and look after their plants properly. What could be more lesbian than that?

A lot of lesbian and bi women I speak to can’t pinpoint when or why the thumb ring became a queer signifier. “I remember seeing Villanelle in Killing Eve wear a thumb ring, and absentmindedly thinking, ‘Oh, very smart – that must be because her character’s queer.’ It felt like a wink to the queers,” says 25-year-old lesbian, Grace. “I can’t put into words why it’s specifically a queer look. It’s kind of like a word-of-mouth folk tale, but visual. Just one of those things that gets passed on from lesbian to lesbian, until the thumb ring itself becomes inherently lesbian, or queer.”

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“I often find thumb rings on women quite attractive,” says 27-year-old pansexual, Zoe. “Maybe because it’s a bit butch, in a subtle way. I think minimal jewellery is definitely a queer thing for women. Like, just one or two ‘statement pieces’. One dangly earring or one simple necklace is quite queer, too. It could be because all of these things straddle the butch / femme divide.”

Danielle Goldman, a stylist who has worked with everyone from Brooke Candy to Happy Meal Ltd and Aja from RuPaul’s Drag Race, agrees that thumb rings hold a certain prominence when it comes to queer women’s style.

“There’s a specific sex appeal that comes with queer women wearing thumb rings that is hard to describe or pinpoint,” she says. “To me, the thumb ring seems like the ultimate anti-ornamental piece – it’s a symbol of defiance and non-compliance with the normative femme expression of wearing a ‘decorative’ or ‘pretty’ ring on any of the more usually bejewelled fingers. It’s negating the idea of performing for the male gaze. There is something very sexy about that.”

Obviously you can’t really tell someone’s sexuality based on what they’re wearing – straight people wear thumb rings, too! Gay men definitely do. Plus, the necessity for coded signifiers (see: the handkerchief code) has gradually waned since the late 1960s and 1970s, when homosexuality began to become more accepted. Still, the thumb ring has a semi-coded history, too – it’s just that nobody’s quite sure which thumb means what. According to an entry on Urban Dictionary, “If a woman wears a thumb ring on her right thumb, she is considered to be bisexual or lesbian.” Others claim that the hand you wear your thumb ring on indicates whether you’re queer and single or in a relationship.

Either way, we can all agree that the thumb ring is very gay.

Right now – at a time when fashion is becoming increasingly gender-neutral, and when younger generations don’t always feel the need to attach fixed labels to their gender or sexuality – stylistic markers are becoming a little less common, greyer and harder to define. Which is a good thing. We needn’t be defined by what we’re wearing, or who we’re sleeping with, or how those two things may or may not interact.

Even so, none of this negates the need for queer expression, even in 2020. And if that expression happens to look like an extremely queer thumb ring, so be it. Also, if your thumb ring is also a mood ring, that means you’re a lesbian times-two. I don’t make the rules.

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Pride 2020: The clothing brands making a difference & the makeup products to buy – HELLO!

Arianna Chatzidakis

We all have a part to play in supporting the LGBTQ+ community and to create an environment in which everyone can feel safe and happy. That’s why we love it when we see fashion and beauty brands supporting this community and making a difference around Pride 2020. Spread the love and shop our edit of Pride products below…

Asos x GLAAD

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The ASOS DESIGN x GLAAD collection donates 100 percent of proceeds to the GLAAD charity, which aims to accelerate LGBTQ acceptance and create meaningful change. Wear this statement tee alone or under a long-sleeved top.

ASOS DESIGN x glaad unisex t-shirt with unity logo in white, £18, ASOS

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Etsy

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Celebrate Pride 2020 with a wide range of handmade pieces from Etsy and support independent sellers in the process. We love these small rainbow pins which can be attached to the likes of denim jackets or collars. Cute!

Rainbow pin, £7.99, Etsy

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Morphe

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Beauty brand Morphe has launched a limited-edition pride collection called Free To Be, where 100 percent of net proceeds (with a minimum of $50,000) from this collection will be donated to GLSEN, an organisation that helps to create safe and supportive school environments for LGBTQ+ youth.

10G Glsen Up Artistry Palette, £18, Morphe

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UGG

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Feel like you are walking on clouds in these fluffy pride sliders! Southern Californian brand UGG has a continued partnership with LGBTQ+ charity GLAAD, and have created these funky, statement shoes for both adults and children. They feature super soft sheepskin and a handy elastic heel strap.

Kids’ Fluff Yeah sliders, £65 from UGG

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Fossil

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To celebrate Pride month, Fossil has launched its second annual Pride Watch, with a percentage of its global proceeds being donated to the It Gets Better Project – a non-profit organisation which works to uplift, empower and connect LGBTQ+ youth around the globe. This gorgeous watch is available in two sizes and features a colourful design that resembles the full spectrum of love. The special etched caseback also commemorates Pride 2020.

Pride watch, £89, Fossil

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Slip

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This limited-edition LOVE IS LOVE sleep mask for Pride is made from luxurious Mulberry silk both inside and out, and features embroidered rainbow colours. We love.

Slip Silk Sleep Mask Love is Love, £50 from John Lewis

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PUMA

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PUMA has teamed up with LGBTQ+ activist Cara Delevingne to launch the ‘From PUMA with Love’ collection, which features 13 items you can wear during Pride month and beyond! Plus, 20 percent of profits will be donated to The Cara Delevingne Foundation, a project of the Giving Back Fund.

Pride graphic tee, £25, PUMA

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Pantherella

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Update your sock collection with these rainbow ‘Shine’ socks from Pantherella, and 10 percent of the sales made will be donated to a Leicester-based LGBT sexual health charity called Trade.

Shine socks, £14,50, Pantherella

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Batiste

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Shop Batiste’s latest Love Is Love Dry Shampoo and you’ll be supporting the brand’s pledge to donate £30,000 to LGBT Foundation to support its programs and the range of services it offers the community. Plus, this product will look lush in your beauty drawer!

Batiste Love Is Love Dry Shampoo, £2.99, Superdrug

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Vaseline

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This limited-edition product has been made in partnership with Switchboard LGBTQ+, a national helpline open 10am-10pm 365 days a year offering support for LGBTQ+ issues. 

Aloe lip therapy, £1.95, Superdrug available from 15 June 2020

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Simple

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These cleansing wipes from Simple feature a pride rainbow and clear display of Switchboard charities contact number for easy access to those who need it. 

Simple biodegradable cleansing wipe, £3.65, Superdrug available from 13 July 2020

Marc Jacobs Beauty

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These dazzling lip lacquers launched for Pride 2019 are still available to buy now – expect maximum colour with a high-shine shimmer. Ooh la la!

Marc Jacobs enamored (with pride): hydrating lip gloss stick, £24, Harvey Nichols

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Face Halo

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Treat yourself to a modern makeup remover and buy this Face Halo Love is Love pack, which features a limited-edition rainbow trim and outer packaging with three pads inside. A percentage of all the proceeds willl go to The Trevor project, an American 24-hour confidential suicide hotline for LGBTQ youth.

Love is Love pack, £20, Face Halo

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Sockshop

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Let your feet do the talking in these bright and bold rainbow socks from SockShop. The brand is donating 20% of each sale of the Pride Rainbow Love Is Love Socks to the LGBT foundation, too!

Pride Rainbow Love is Love socks, £3.99, Sockshop

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Stutterheim

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Brave the tempermental British weather in this gorgeous rainbow raincoat from Stutterheim, and make a standout statement.10% of the price of this mood-boosting coat will be donated to an international LGBTQ organisation working for equality and rights for all people.  

Vladimir rainbow raincoat, £260, Stutterheim

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TEVA

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Talk about fancy footwear! These rainbow flatforms are ideal for summer, and 10% of every purchase will be donated to the Albert Kennedy Trust who support the LGBTQ+ community by providing safe homes and a better future for young people facing or experiencing life on the streets. 

Rainbow pride flatform, £55, Teva

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AllSaints

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This grunge tank top from AllSaints features an inspirational quote on the back, reading “We are all equal, we are all the same, we are AllSaints. All being, all seeing, all lovin, Allways”. Plus, £10 from every sale of the top will go to The Kaleidoscope Trust, a charity that works to uphold the human rights of lesbian, gay, bisexual and trans people internationally.

Pride immy tank, £38, AllSaints

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Ami X GLAAD

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Wear your pride on your keychain with this gorgeous limited-edition piece from designer brand Ami in collaboration with GLAAD. 100 percent of the proceeds from the sale will go to GLAAD to raise awareness and support a number of charities against homophobia and transphobia.

Rainbow Ami De Coeur Keyring, £65, Ami

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QUAY

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QUAY is honouring the LGBTQ community with a gorgeous collectio of Pride sunglasses, featuring the brand’s bestselling sunglasses shapes but with mirrored rainbow lenses. How cool is that!

Heartbreaker pride sunglasses, £40, QUAY

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Crocs

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For those looking for both comfort and style, invest in these rainbow-inspired sliders from Crocs. As part of the brand’s SS20 pride collection, rainbow print has been used to symbolise love, equality, respect and unity.

Crocband™ III Rainbow Block Slide, £19.99, Crocs

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The Catskills, NY: Nature and Nurture | PASSPORT Magazine | Gay Travel – PASSPORT Magazine

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Man, I hope you see a bear,” says Tim, the innkeeper at Shandaken Inn, a new property surrounded by miles of countryside in the Catskills (sullivancatskills.com) Tim says black bears are skittish, but sightings are not uncommon, so like a safari, I keep my eyes peeled. Unfortunately, the elusive creatures never appear, but over the past week, I spotted other types of bears. And otters. And cubs. Even the occasional gym rat. It’s not all too surprising. The Catskills, two hours north of New York City, is a magnet to gay travelers, who pack weekend bags and boots for bucolic adventures in the wild.

The entire region, sprawling a whopping 3.8 million acres between NYC and Albany, is experiencing its biggest
renaissance to date. Small towns that have never been on the gay traveler’s radar now seduce with design hotels, major events like Gay Ski Day in Hunter are attracting LGBT city dwellers, and farm-fresh restaurants are having a moment as notable city chefs unpack their knives here.

Eastwind Hotel Lushna Cabin, Catskills, NY

Eastwind Hotel Lushna Cabin

Lending to the Catskills comeback story is a host of visionary and well heeled New Yorkers buying property and turning them into stylish “Great Outdoors” spots, from hotels to restaurants, that are imaginative and unarguably more inclusive. The recent rise in adventure/outdoor travel, the fastest growing global niche, also contributes to the boon, attracting city dwellers who seek a whole lot of nature without sacrificing modern comforts. Ultimately, gay communities in the Catskills are growing and thriving since people are not only visiting, but buying second homes or moving.

I had my first taste of the Catskills rebirth in Windham (townofwindhamny.com), one of the oldest towns in the region (established in 1798). Windham is small and compact (the historic main street is less than a mile long) with a population hovering around 1,600. It feels like it still belongs in the 18th century, and therein lies the charm. Most of the new development is integrated into the smalltown rural charm, embracing minimal country-inspired design. There’s a handful of small B&Bs in the area, but Eastwind Hotel (5088 NY-23, Tel: 518-734-0553. eastwindny.com), opened 2018, brought a millennial- centric, contemporary flair that, thankfully, doesn’t feel forced.

Eastwind dates back to the 1920s as a former bunkhouse for hunters and fishermen, and without compromising the original structure, the new owner elevated the property into a stylish, 19-room hotel. I use the term “hotel” generously since desk staff are gone by dusk, and there’s no room service, TVs, or restaurant, but surprisingly, this is what I loved about Eastwind. It feels casual, like a friend’s vacation home in the country, being that it’s a hybrid hotel, vacation rental, and even “glamping” if you book one of the Scandinavian-style “Lushna” standalone cabins with commanding views of the Catskills mountains. This set-up makes Eastwind favorable for guy getaways and couples who appreciate privacy—and there’s tons of it. The country-meets-modern design skews masculine yet its soft, the architecture comprising natural curves and angles as well as floor-to-ceiling windows that frame Windham Mountain. Natural light flooded the main lounge that transforms into a bar on weekends (also serving breakfast), and an outdoor sauna and a firepit were virtually made for Instagram.

Roxbury at Stratton Falls-Terrazza of the Titans, Catskills, NY

Roxbury at Stratton Falls-Terrazza of the Titans

Windham is primarily known for the slopes at Windham Mountain, but I discovered something far more distinctive: the food. Fortunately, Eastwind brought a spotlight to the surrounding, family-run restaurants, and each restaurant I dined at could do well on its own merit in NYC. One of my favorite home-cooked breakfasts was at Albergo Allegria (43 NY-296, Tel: 518-734-5560. albergousa.com), a small country inn known mostly for its farm-fresh meals with daily changing menus based on freshness and quality of natural ingredients. I ordered the sampling plate, which had a bit of everything: French Toast with homemade orange reduction, grilled asparagus tossed with fresh dill and slivers of preserved lemons, and their signature omelete stuffed with locally grown mushrooms and paired with gruyere cheese.

I also found a whole lot of love in the kitchen at Catskill Mountain Country Store (55510 NY-23, Tel: 518-734-3387. (catskillmtncountrystore.com), where my friend and I dined on cheeseburgers, pancakes, and freshly baked cookies. The restaurant uses organic ingredients in all their dishes. The kitschy, adjoined general merchant store is a visual wonderland, selling everything from locallymade jams, maple syrup, fudge, preserves, and baked breads to local organic skincare products and dozens of artisanal, country-themed crafts and gifts to bring back home.

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COVID redraws 2020 LGBTQ travel roadmap – Washington Blade

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GMCW Turns 40
Streaming begins Saturday, June 5 at 7 p.m.
Available through June 20
Tickets: $25
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Discussion of the Gay Men’s Chorus of Washington quickly becomes emotional for its members both veteran and newbie(-ish). They’re the kind of strong feelings that only exist when one has sacrificed and invested in something.

“It’s an experience that touches our soul in a way that not that many LGBTQ+ people get to experience,” says tenor Javon Morris-Byam, a gay 28-year-old music teacher who joined three years ago. “We have music tying us together and in the end, we make a product that we can share with the public and that’s a humbling experience.”

Steve Herman, 79, is a founding member, though he doesn’t sing. One of a group of “non-singing members,” he joined in June 1981 and has helped over the decades painting scenery, designing ads, serving on the board and more. His partner at the time had joined the chorus as a singer.

A Gay Men’s Chorus performance in 1983. (Washington Blade archive photo by Leigh Mosley)

Now retired after 47 years in the federal government, he says the Chorus “has been a major centerpiece of my life.”

“This may sound corny, but I couldn’t imagine my life without the chorus,” Herman says.

The chorus is celebrating its 40th anniversary this weekend with a streaming concert simply dubbed “GMCW turns 40” that can be streamed starting Saturday, June 5 at 7 p.m. and can be viewed until June 20.

Selections will include “From Now On” (from “The Greatest Showman”), “Rise Up,” “Make Them Hear You” (from “Ragtime”), “Truly Brave” and a new song called “Harmony’s Never Too Late!” written for the occasion by Stephen Flaherty and Lynn Ahrens, composers of “Ragtime.” Video clips of past performances will also be included in a montage. Tickets are $25 at gmcw.org.

Thea Kano, the Chorus’s artistic director since 2014 (she was associate director for a decade prior), says “Make Them Hear You” has “kind of become our anthem over the last 10 years,” so contacting its composers for a commission made sense. They premiered it last summer virtually at the Chorus’s Summer Soiree, a COVID-induced postponement of its usual Spring Affair.

Thea Kano, center, joins members of the Chorus at the United States Supreme Court on the day of the Obergefell v. Hodges marriage equality decision in June of 2015.(Washington Blade photo by Michael Key)

Kano, a straight ally, directs the Chorus with aid from Associate Conductor C. Paul Heins, Assistant Conductor Joshua Sommerville and accompanist Teddy Guerrant. Justin Fyala has been the Chorus’s executive director since 2016. Staff also includes Craig Cipollini (director of marketing), Kirk Sobell (director of patron services) and Alex Tang (accompanist).

Under the main Chorus umbrella are five ensembles: 17th Street Dance, a 14-member performance troupe started in 2016; Rock Creek Singers, a 32-voice chamber ensemble; GenOUT Youth Chorus, a teen choir of about 25; Potomac Fever, a 14-member harmony pop ensemble; and Seasons of Love, a 24-voice gospel choir.

GenOUT Youth Chorus. (Washington Blade photo by Michael Key)

Musically, the Chorus’s repertoire is eclectic.

“(We sing) everything from spiritual to glam rock to punk to traditional classical, and everything in between,” Morris-Byam says. “I love when the chorus is all together and able to produce a big powerful sound.”

Kano says working with Fyala is “a dream” and says under his leadership the Chorus is “in a very healthy financial place, which is wonderful and a very humble thing to be able to say right now particularly given that we’re in a pandemic — that’s not the case with a lot of arts organizations.”

The D.C. Chorus is a quasi-unofficial spin off of its San Francisco counterpart. During an early ’80s national tour, the San Francisco group performed at Washington’s Kennedy Center and had a profound effect on local audiences. Marsha Pearson, a straight woman who lived in Dupont Circle at the time and enjoyed hanging out with gay men, was one such person.

“I couldn’t believe we didn’t have one of these,” she told the Blade 10 years ago for a story on the Chorus’s 30th anniversary. “I thought, ‘We’re the nation’s capital, how come we don’t have this?’”

The Chorus performs at the popular gay nightclub Tracks in 1984. (Washington Blade photo by Doug Hinckle)

She hand wrote fliers — four to a sheet — had her sister photocopy them at her office, cut them up by hand and passed them out at Capital Pride in 1981. Accounts vary about how many showed up to the first practice at the long-defunct gay community center (no connection to the D.C. Center) on Church Street. Pearson remembers about 30. Others say it was more like 15-ish. It was June 28, 1981 and, by all accounts, an innocuous beginning.

Pearson never sang with the group — it was exclusively a men’s chorus. She asked if anybody had any conducting experience. The late Jim Richardson did and became the first director.

“I still remember the first chord,” Pearson told the Blade in 2011. “It was just a simple thing, you know, like do, mi, so, do, but I just got goosebumps. I was just elated that even one note came out, I was so excited. I got those same goosebumps at the anniversary concert last weekend. I put their CDs on and I get the same thing, especially on certain things they sing. You just can’t believe it sounds so great.”

Click here for more about the history of the group. A bio/history is also available at gmcw.org.

COVID has, of course, wreaked havoc on the operation. Thankfully, Kano says, no members have died from it, though a handful (she says fewer than 10 that she knows of), including Kano, have had it and recovered.

The Chorus continued its Sunday evening rehearsals via Zoom, which, because of the precision required for musical performance, was tougher to take online than, say, a business meeting. It never occurred to the Chorus leadership to take a hiatus.

“I look back now like, ‘Why didn’t we take some time off,’ but I think off the top of my head at the time it was like, “We sing and we’re a social justice organization and community is such a big part of who we are,’” Kano says. “And so for suddenly, with no notice, to have something that we love so much and are so passionate about …. to suddenly just turn the lights off, that wasn’t even an option.”

A GMCW rehearsal in 2007. (Washington Blade file photo by Henry Linser)

With the Chorus and dancers and GenOUT, there are about 200 current volunteer performers. It’s been slightly higher at times. Some were deterred by the thought of rehearsing via Zoom although some former members no longer in the D.C. area — even a few overseas — rejoined when virtual participation became possible.

The murder of George Floyd and the Black Lives Matter movement last summer and beyond was a galvanizing event. The Chorus responded with its “Let Freedom Sing” concert, which Kano says celebrated the intersection of Black and LGBTQ people.

Featured soloists perform in ‘Let Freedom Sing.’ (Washington Blade photo by Michael Key)

“It was our way of saying we raise our voice in solidarity with those facing injustice,” Kano says.

But does that get messy at times? Surely not everyone in a choir of this size is on the same page politically, even in a progressive city like D.C., right?

As a nonprofit, the Chorus avoids anything ostensibly political. Kano says the issue did arise when they were invited to sing at a Virginia-based gun-reform event last year. They participated, but carefully.

“So anytime you mentioned guns, it becomes political,” Kano says. “It’s not about whether or not we support the Second Amendment. It’s us standing in solidarity with those who have been victims of gun violence.”

Kano says there’s “a very good chance had this been a non-pandemic year,” they would have been invited to sing at the Biden-Harris inauguration, which she says they “absolutely” would have agreed to.

“We did wonder, though, a few years ago what we would have said if 45 were to ask us,” she says. “We didn’t spend a lot of time on it because we knew that wasn’t gonna happen,” she says with a chuckle.

The holiday shows for the Chorus often involve elaborate costumes, as in this scene in 2017. (Washington Blade photo by Michael Key)

Herman says performing at big, pro-LGBTQ “statement”-type events is woven into the Chorus’s history and is understood.

“Every Christmas Eve, we’d sing for the patients at NIH,” he says. “We still do, only then it was primarily AIDS patients. We sang special concerts when the (AIDS) Quilt was first displayed and when there was a March on Washington. We did a lot of community work and outreach at a time when it was really needed.”

Morris-Byam says even today, with so much progress having been made, the Chorus still is needed. He, by the way, calls Kano “one of the most brilliant musicians I’ve ever met.”

“I believe the Chorus is a strong political statement in itself,” he says. “When we’re making a strong, joyful noise, it’s celebrating everything we are, what we can be, and everyone who has gotten us where we are.

The Chorus celebrates the 50th anniversary of the Stonewall Riots in a performance at Lincoln Theatre in 2019. (Washington Blade photo by Michael Key)

There have been challenges over the years — finding new office space, patching together individual vocal parts for virtual performances — but no warring factions. Kano is, by most accounts, extremely well liked.

The future, Kano says, is bright. She hopes to resume in-person rehearsals in the fall. She spent a big chunk of early lockdown transcribing a Puccini “Gloria Mass” for tenor/bass chorus. She plans to program it with works by Cole Porter eventually.

Ultimately, Kano says, her goals for the Chorus are about making great art.

“Art comes first,” she says. “Because that’s how we deliver our mission. And if we put great art first, it’s going to attract great people. It’s going to both as members and as audience members and patrons, and therefore it’s going to attract great funding, and then all that goes right back into the arts we can further our expansion and our ability to get the mission out.”

Craig Cipollini leads the ‘Grease’ dance auditions in 2010. (Washington Blade file photo by Michael Key)

How to Have Safer “Bareback” Sex Without a Condom – Healthline

If you’ve been on Grindr or kicking it old school and creeping Craigslist ads, you’ve probably seen the term “bareback” — or BB for short — come up.

You’re here, so you’re probably considering bareback sex. Or, at the very least, you’re curious.

Here are the answers to your burning questions and a few considerations to make before hopping on the bareback bandwagon.

It means having penetrative sex without a barrier.

If you haven’t already made the connection, riding bareback is a play on horseback riding without a saddle.

Its origins, however, aren’t so cute and fuzzy.

When the term first appeared in the mid-1990s in the gay press, it referred to intentional condom-less anal sex among gay men living with HIV.

A short time later, the definition changed, and it was primarily used to talk about people with penises having anal sex with other people with penises without using a condom.

It’s since been co-opted to refer to any kind of penetrative sex without a barrier.

Yep — anyone who wants to can.

Ain’t gonna lie, it’s risky.

Exactly how risky is hard to say, since there are so many factors that affect risk.

These factors include anything from how many partners you’ve each had to whether you’re on the giving or receiving end of penetration, and even if you’re using enough lube.

What we can tell you for certain is that over 1 million STIs are acquired every hour worldwide, according to the World Health Organization (WHO).

The majority of STIs have no symptoms or such mild symptoms that they’re hard to recognize. This includes HIV, which can be undetectable. (More on that in a bit).

You or your partner could transmit an STI without even realizing you’ve contracted it in the first place.

Unless you skip partnered sexual activity all together, barrier methods, like condoms, are the most effective way to prevent the transmission of STIs.

If you ditch the barrier, you’re exposed … in more ways than one.

Pleasure, for starters! The feel of their skin on yours, and their mouth and tongue on, well, everything, just feels good. This is thanks to the heat, wetness, and friction.

That said, pleasure shouldn’t be your only motivator to ditch barrier methods.

“The primary benefit to sex without a barrier is heightened sensation,” says Caitlin V. Neal, MPH, a resident sexologist for sexual hygiene company Royal.

“Many people report that the increased heat and feel of skin-to-skin contact increases their arousal and pleasure,” Neal explains. “Although, this alone isn’t reason enough to go without a barrier, so please don’t let an unsafe partner penetrate you unless you’re fully consenting.”

There are some other potential benefits to sex without a barrier, like bonding and intimacy.

Making the conscious choice to have barrier-free sex with a partner can give you a greater physical connection and up the intimacy factor, bringing you closer.

Skin-to-skin contact and even contact with seminal fluids and genital secretions have been linked to improved mood, reduced stress and depression, and a stronger immune system.

If you’re trying to conceive, going bareback makes it possible for sperm to get to where they need to go. But there’s more.

When seminal fluid makes contact with reproductive tissues, it initiates a controlled inflammatory response. This affects reproduction function to increase the chances for producing a healthy pregnancy.

Barrier methods, like condoms, help prevent STIs and unwanted pregnancy, so going bareback means a higher risk for one or both, depending on the type of sex you’re having.

An open and honest convo about risks, expectations, and boundaries before going sans barrier is in order.

Set expectations and discuss boundaries

Not to be a total killjoy, but if you haven’t already had the “where is this going” talk, now’s the time to do it.

Set boundaries and expectations based on your situation.

While some recommend that bareback sex be reserved for people in monogamous relationships, that may not be the type of relationship that’s right for you.

If it is and you’re both committed to not engaging in barrier-free sex acts with anyone else, cool.

If sex with other partners is on the table, committing to barrier use with other partners is the safest way to go bareback with each other.

Once you’ve nailed your “sexpectations,” it’s time to talk STI testing. Yes, even if you’re monogamous.

Test for STIs and share your status

Unless neither of you has ever engaged in any type of sex act, then STIs are a possibility and a talk about status and testing needs to happen before saying buh-bye to barriers.

STIs and swabs may not be anyone’s idea of sexy pillow talk, but it’s necessary. Infections aren’t just transmitted by having penis-in-vagina or penis-in-anus sex. Manual, oral, and dry humping in the buff can do it, too.

“If you’re considering bareback sex, make sure both you and your partner are tested beforehand and that you’ve communicated verbally about any high-risk activity you’ve engaged in recently,” Neal says.

“All STIs have an incubation period. So, even if you tested negative recently, if you’ve been having unprotected sex you may want to get two negative tests before going bareback.”

Getting tested is NBD. Do it together, and then go for gelato.

Keep using a barrier until you’ve both received results, and then decide how you want to proceed.

Remember that you both have the right to change your minds about ditching barrier protection at any time, regardless of the results.

That said, a positive test doesn’t mean you need to permanently shelf the bareback thing.

Most STIs can be cleared up with a course of antibiotics, so just postpone sex in the raw until you finish treatment and retest to make sure you’re in the clear.

If you test positive for HIV, condoms are still recommended by experts outside of abstinence, but bareback sex doesn’t have to be off the table.

Antiretroviral therapy (ART) can help you control HIV and eventually get your viral load low enough to be undetectable. Viral load is the amount of HIV in the blood, anal mucus, and semen.

A person with undetectable HIV (HIV-U) can’t transmit the virus to others.

Consider preventive medication

Preventive medication is available for certain STIs and another way to have safer sex without a barrier.

PrEP — short for pre-exposure prophylaxis — is a drug you can take to prevent HIV if you’re at risk because you aren’t using condoms and your partner is HIV-positive or if you or your partner is having sex with other people.

When taken properly, PrEP reduces the risk of getting HIV by around 99 percent.

There are also vaccines available that can help you prevent hepatitis B and HPV.

FYI: HPV is the most common STI in the United States and is spread through intimate skin-to-skin contact. There are different HPV strains and almost everyone will get at least one type during their lifetime.

Depending on the type, HPV can cause genital warts and different types of cancer, including cervical, penile, and throat cancers.

Assess any contraceptive needs

If pregnancy is a possibility and you or your partner don’t want to get pregnant, you’ll need to find a secondary birth control method. You have a few options to choose from, each one with its own cost and effectiveness.

A healthcare professional can help you figure out which one’s right for you.

Options include:

No birth control method is 100 percent effective. It’s important to put some serious thought into your options for an unexpected or unwanted pregnancy.

If there’s a chance you were exposed to an STI, take a trip to a clinic or healthcare professional for testing.

STIs have different windows and incubation periods, and they might not be detectable or cause symptoms for days or weeks. You may need to go back for more testing.

Still, early detection and treatment can help you avoid complications, so don’t put it off.

See a doctor if you experience any signs or symptoms of an STI or pregnancy.

Common STI symptoms include:

  • unusual vaginal, penile, or rectal discharge
  • genital bumps or sores
  • genital or anal pain, burning, or itching
  • pain during sex
  • pain or burning when urinating
  • pelvic pain
  • swollen lymph nodes in the neck or groin
  • fever and chills

Early signs of pregnancy include:

  • missed period
  • nausea and morning sickness
  • sore or swollen breasts
  • fatigue
  • frequent need to urinate
  • spotting

Making the decision to go condom-free isn’t something you do on a whim. Consequences could be severe.

Have a candid convo with all involved about the risks and expectations. If you aren’t all willing to invest the time and effort needed for regular testing and precautions, or if there’s even a hint of mistrust, keep using a barrier method.


Adrienne Santos-Longhurst is a Canada-based freelance writer and author who has written extensively on all things health and lifestyle for more than a decade. When she’s not holed-up in her writing shed researching an article or off interviewing health professionals, she can be found frolicking around her beach town with husband and dogs in tow or splashing about the lake trying to master the stand-up paddle board.

Supreme Court LGBT Ruling Leaves Sports Transgender Questions – Bloomberg Law

“[I]t is impossible to discriminate against a person for being…transgender without discriminating against that individual based on sex.” That strong language is central to a case decided by the U.S. Supreme Court on June 15, R.G. and G.R. Harris Funeral Homes v. Equal Employment Opportunity Commission, consolidated with Bostock v. Clayton County, Georgia.

That case held, in an employment context, that termination of a transgender employee, i.e., an employee who had transitioned away from the sex listed on the employee’s birth certificate, because the employee was transgender violated Title VII of the 1964 Civil Rights Act.

One would therefore think that that language boded well for sports-related cases involving discrimination against transgender individuals. Despite the fact that Title IX, which covers sports cases, contains language very similar to that in Title VII, it is not at all clear that the strong language in Harris Funeral Homes would be dispositive in a Title IX case.

Little Guidance for Connecticut Case

Illustrating this point is a case pending in federal court in Connecticut in which cisgender females, i.e., those who identify with the sex on their birth certificate, are suing to stop transgender females (males who have transitioned to females) from competing in high school track meets. On the question whether such an exclusion would violate Title IX, Harris Funeral Homes gives surprisingly little guidance, as detailed below.

Harris Funeral Homes turned on the interpretation of the language in Title VII that prohibits an employer from discharging any individual “because of…sex.” The court makes it clear that this language means that, if sex is even part of the reason for the discharge, the employee will prevail in court.

The court makes this determination by looking at a number of examples where, if the sex of the individual had been different, the result would have been different. If that is the case, then the termination was implemented because of sex and, therefore, prohibited by Title VII: “if changing the employee’s sex would have yielded a different choice by the employer…a statutory violation has occurred.”

This analysis gives the transgender employee a straightforward route to victory. Comparing two employees who were both female at birth, one of whom has transitioned to being a male and has been fired for that reason, the court states that “the employer intentionally penalizes a person identified as male at birth for traits or actions that it tolerates in an employee identified as female at birth.” This, the court finds, is unlawful employment discrimination because of sex.

How this analysis will apply, if at all, to Title IX, which governs most amateur sports, is unclear because of a special characteristic of sport: unlike other areas of civil rights law, there is a regulation clarifying Title IX that allows separate (but equal) teams for males and females. Separate but equal male and female teams require more analysis than is given in Harris Funeral Homes, where there were no jobs that were expressly and legally categorized male or female.

Title IX’s language is very similar to that of Title VII, stating that “No person…shall, on the basis of sex, be excluded from participation…or be subjected to discrimination…” A regulation clarifying Title IX, however, allows “separate teams for members of each sex where selection for such teams is based upon competitive skill…” The courts have upheld this exemption, which allows, for example, separate male and female track teams.

Applying the test from Harris Funeral Homes to this statute, as clarified by this regulation, is not straightforward. In Harris Funeral Homes, the Supreme Court found that, had the transgender female (male-to-female) employee been a female at birth, that person would not have been fired.

More Difficult Question: What Constitutes a Male and Female

In the sports case involving a transgender female seeking to compete as a member of the female track team, however, the question is not whether an individual can compete, because there are teams for both males and females. The question is on which of those teams one can compete.

In order to answer that question, a court will need to confront a much more difficult issue than statutory interpretation. It must determine—at least for the purpose of the male and female competitive categories for track competitions—what constitutes a male and what constitutes a female. Harris Funeral Homes gives no guidance on this point.

Indeed, not only is there a lack of guidance, but also Harris Funeral Homes decision expressly limits itself. In argument, the losing party in Harris Funeral Homes expressed the fear that a loss would “sweep beyond Title VII to other federal or state laws that prohibit sex discrimination…sex-segregated bathrooms, locker rooms, and dress codes will prove unsustainable…”

To that the Supreme Court replied that “we do not purport to address bathrooms, locker rooms, or anything else of the kind.”

Therefore, although Harris Funeral Homes was a major victory for transgender individuals, they still have a significant legal battle to fight in the field of amateur sport.

This column does not necessarily reflect the opinion of The Bureau of National Affairs, Inc. or its owners.

Author Information

Ronald S. Katz, senior counsel at GCA Law Partners LLP, is the author of “Sport, Ethics and Leadership” (Routledge, 2017). In 2016 he was a Stanford Distinguished Careers Institute Fellow.